Daily Habits to Help Manage Anxiety in a Healthy Way

People living with anxiety know that managing it is often a daily struggle. Anxiety is a complicated condition, and like many mental health disorders, it can lead to a totally new routine in order to manage it. Remember, there’s a difference between anxiety and everyday stress; they aren’t exactly the same. One definition of anxiety is that it is your body’s response to having too much stress. When we’re feeling stressed, we can usually still function, but the hallmark of anxiety is that it interferes with your everyday functioning. That’s usually how you can tell if you stress has morphed into anxiety: is it interfering with the way you live your life? It’s normal to once in a while feel nervous or worried, but you don’t need to feel that way all of the time.

Waking up with a ball of anxiety in your stomach every morning is not ideal.

It can leave you feeling like you don’t even want to get out of bed. That’s why it’s helpful to establish habits that you can use every day to carry you through on the days when your anxiety is spiraling out of control. It can be almost impossible to snap yourself out of an anxious spiral, especially without practice. That’s why it’s important to find anxiety-relieving methods that work for you and then practice them until they’re second nature to you. That way, the next time you’re feeling anxious and out of control, you have something to reach for to soothe yourself. 

Fortunately, there are lots of different ways to manage anxiety. Everyone’s anxiety is a little bit different, so if something doesn’t work for you, just move on to something else. Some of the popular ways folks manage anxiety are implementing lifestyle changes, starting therapy, or taking medication. Even though these methods can be really helpful, there is still stigma attached to mental health treatment and medication. Remember that there’s nothing wrong with taking medication to manage your anxiety. Finding ways to manage your mental health is just another facet of self-care. 

Since folks who live with anxiety have to deal with it every day, a natural starting place for anxiety relief is with your daily routine. You already have habits, whether you realize it or not: what do you do every day? The key to spotting a habit is that it happens almost automatically - you don’t even have to think about it. What habits are you currently practicing that you might not be aware of? Take a few days and just notice when you do something out of habit. 

It may also be helpful to point out that most of our habits reflect our needs, after a little digging. If you habitually scroll through Instagram for a few hours every day, you might be trying to connect with people socially, or numb yourself to the hard emotions you’re feeling. Do a little digging to find out the needs that your current habits are meeting. You might be surprised! 

Here are some daily habits that can help you manage anxiety: 

Rest

Anxiety can be a sign from your body that you need to take a break. When you push yourself too hard for too long, you can put yourself at risk for burnout, and then you won’t be able to get anything done, no matter how much you want to. It’s good to notice what anxiety feels like in your body so you can pay attention to which parts of you need extra rest or care. Start getting strict about getting the right amount of sleep - it’s wild how such a small change can have a huge impact. Our bodies and brains need rest to function, so making time to rest every single day is a good way to honor that need. 

Mindfulness

A lot of anxiety comes from worry about what’s coming. Mindfulness is a powerful tool in your anti-anxiety toolbelt because it teaches you how to be present in the moment, instead of focusing on the past or the future. Even taking five minutes every day to sit and notice your surroundings and slow your breath can have a valuable impact on your anxiety levels. 

Movement 

Movement is a great way to expend any anxious energy you may be feeling. Even if you’ve thought about exercise in terms of punishment until now, you can reframe it in your head as being for your mental health. Moving your body can go a long way toward expelling that extra anxious energy that you feel. You don’t have to do hardcore exercise to reap the benefits - making time to go for a walk a few times a week can make a real difference. 

Journaling

It’s hard to move through things when we don’t give ourselves enough time and space to process them. Journaling is a quick and cheap way to check in with yourself regularly about how you’re feeling. Journaling is helpful for managing anxiety for a couple of reasons. To start, the medium forces you to slow down. You can only write one thing at a time, so the process of journaling naturally makes you work through your thoughts one at a time. Journaling also gives you a place to explore the reasons behind your feelings instead of just feeling dread and anxiety. Journaling can help you identify patterns in your thoughts, which can help you find new ways to cope. 

Intentional Social Media Usage

It is so, so easy to get stuck looking at your phone and then realize hours later that you’ve lost all that time. Our phones were designed to be addicting, so don’t feel ashamed that you get sucked into a social media spiral. One way to combat that feeling is to be really intentional with your social media usage. Unfollow or mute accounts that make you feel badly about yourself. Follow accounts that show a diverse range of body types and that share your values. If you get a bad vibe from someone every time you look at their posts, remind yourself that you can unfollow. 

Anxiety is a little different for everyone, so if these ideas don’t help you, that’s not the end of the road. Our clinicians can help you come up with an anxiety management plan that works specifically for you. 

How to Craft a Joyful Daily Routine

Are you intentional with your daily routine? Or do you find yourself just going through the motions?

When a routine feels like drudgery, instead of something you’re excited about, it can feel as though joyful moments are few and far between in your daily life. The key is working in new joyful moments into your day, either by altering your current routine, or creating a new one altogether. 

First: What Brings Joy into Your Life? 

Take a few moments to reflect on your typical day. What parts of your day do you enjoy the most? Is it enjoying a hot cup of coffee in the morning? Is it calling a friend on your commute home from work? 

Make a list of these moments. If you can’t think of them now, keep a notepad with you, or start a note on your phone to keep track of them as they happen throughout the day. 

When you have your list of things that bring joy into your day, make not of how frequently you do those things. Rate it on a scale of one to three:

• 1: rarely do you do this

• 2: you do this somewhat regularly

• 3: you do this all the time

Take a look at the things you’ve given a one or a two. Do you not do them often because they don’t improve your mood that much, or have you just not found a way to work them into your day more regularly? 

Write out how you usually spend your time each day. It doesn’t have to be super detailed, but give yourself a general outline of what goes on. Where can you add in those 1’s or 2’s? Can you shift your routine around to make more room for them? 

For example, if your favorite part of the morning is sitting and reading with a fresh cup of coffee, consider giving yourself more time to do it! Can you alter your nighttime routine to include setting your coffee maker to brew automatically in the morning, or shower at night to free up time in the morning? Maybe set your clothes out the night before so you don’t have to take time away from your morning routine figuring out what to wear. 

When you’ve found what parts of your day make you the happiest, try combining them with parts of your routine you don’t enjoy. 

For example, a friend struggled to motivate herself to maintain her morning and night hygiene routine. Getting up, brushing her teeth, washing her face, etc. It just wasn’t fun for her! So she didn’t like doing it, which made those two parts of her days seem like a burden. 

What she did love was setting aside time to listen to her favorite music, and playing with her cat. So, in order to make her routine more joyful, she combined all three! Now, when she needs to get that hygiene routine going, she puts on her favorite album. She gives herself a few minutes to sit and enjoy it (or dance around) before migrating into the bathroom while it continues to play on. And when she brushes her teeth, she plays with her cat’s laser pointer. So while she’s doing something boring, that she disliked before, she’s able to enjoy it! 

Finally, consider what is missing from your routine. 

Once you’ve identified your favorite parts of your day (and hopefully found ways to brighten up your least favorite parts) consider: is your daily routine missing something? 

Ask yourself “What sorts of things do I enjoy doing when I have free time?” 

Maybe you like trying new restaurants. Or patronizing local coffee shops. Maybe you like to learn or craft, or are a film buff. Think of your hobbies. Make a list similar to the first one, where you rank these hobbies on a scale of one to three, using the same scale.

Now, how can you add them into your routine? 

You might not be able to add in everything you want to, but you can probably make some small adjustments! If you love being outside and going to local coffee shops, find one nearby. Choose one day a week to walk there and have your morning coffee routine take place there. 

If you like to learn, think about what subjects interest you most. Even if you’re busy you can find ways to add some learning into your day. Maybe there’s a podcast on the subject you can listen to while you commute, or shower or cook. 

Or, leave some space, either in your daily routine or at least once a week, where nothing is structured or scheduled. Use that time to follow your whims and passions. What can you do during that time to bring yourself some more joy? 

Crafting a joyful routine is all about small, intentional decision making.

 Rather than just trying to get through the day and achieve as much as you can, try to shift your mindset. Think instead, what will make me feel most fulfilled at the end of this day? What will leave me feeling joyful and excited to start again tomorrow? 

Crafting a joyful routine is a wonderful act of self care. If you need help figuring out how to add more joy into your daily routine, our therapists can help. Get in touch today!

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